Men acquire a particular quality by constantly acting a particular way...you become just by performing just actions, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave actions. Aristotle-Greek critic, philosopher, physicist, & zoologist (384 BC - 322 BC)
Remodeling a house is not so much different from remolding a life. When remodeling a house, paint, carpet, fabrics, and such are chosen before the real work even begins. The planning stages should take time and careful consideration. Sick of paneling? Paint or paper over it to achieve a whole new look. Carpet worn and tiresome? Rip it up and replace it with better quality. Just because something is one way today does not mean it has to stay that way, but it will not change on its own. Brown becomes another color by the painters toil, not by wishes or hopes alone, although without those things to spur the cause onward nothing gets done.
Remolding a life takes the same kind of effort, but it is an inward thing that only becomes evident outwardly as each change is made evident by action. Sick of yourself in some fashion? Well my suggestion is to choose a different color or fabric in the same way you would if you were remodeling your surroundings, because in a real way that is exactly what you are doing.
While you are about the business of remolding yourself do not be surprised if people who know you, or think they do, fail to see the changes right away. They are used to the old, it often takes time and patience to see a clear image, of who you have become, reflected in the eyes of onlookers. Decorate to suit your needs, do the work it demands then enjoy the surroundings, no matter what others believe. Belief in yourself is the first tool used in remolding, and should never be laid down, even after you think the work is completed. Keeping it handy helps when minor adjustments are needed, which they will be from time to time. Upkeep is always necessary, being armed with the tools to tend to repairs of any happy home will save time and energy. Build a house worth living in then live in it fully.
THINK ABOUT IT
LET IT GROW