"If you train your mind to search for the positive things about other people, you will be surprised at how many good things you can observe in them and comment upon."
Alan Loy Mcginnis
When special attention is given to positives they tend to multiply, commenting on them only adds more reason for others to act accordingly. Approval is a very heady motivation for most of us, it can strengthen a sagging resolve in no time flat. Pleasing someone you care about is so satisfying, especially if they are alert enough to notice and not take it for granted.
I always look for the best, and most times that is what I find. There is no use expecting the worst, whatever you serch for in life will be what is found.
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."