Saturday, April 15, 2006

Self Truth

If you do not tell the truth about yourself, you cannot tell it about other people.
Virginia Woolf, 1882-1941, British Novelist and Essayist

Truth can be very dry and hard to swallow if simply stated in a wooden tone, but dry facts in a tidy row are really not all that neat below the surface. Humans are complex creatures; by default their truths are layered with factual things that nobody else ever sees, unless invited inside. Some never share what is hidden, some never even find it for themselves. We all know of its existence, whatever tactics we use to find it, share it, or ignore it.
Telling the truth, at least to yourself, is vital to understanding the self you possess. Brutal truths are most unpleasant, but saying them to yourself keeps it from being such a shock when someone else brings it to your attention. And someone else surely will, trust me, someone else surely will!!
They may only possess just a fraction of the facts that exist, but that rarely stops them from making full use of them. Half-truths are used as often as anything else in the blame game, and can do as much damage as an outright untruth. If you know the whole truth it insulates you against the cold breath of judgment or the hot breath of conviction. But the form is not in the mail, so fact-finding is self-motivated, self-activated, and self-empowering.
There is a freedom to admitting the bad then changing it to something more worthy. There is a special comfort to picking yourself up and walking a few steps further out of a truth that darkness your path into a truth of a lighter shade. Some facts are only habits that have not been broken yet. There is a balance that only comes from accepting your truths, both bad and good. Seeing the root as well as the bare facts changes their meaning somewhat and makes them easier to accept and change whenever necessary.