We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.
George Bernard Shaw, 1856-1950, Irish
Forward motion requires foresight. Any gazing aimed toward your destination encourages safe travel, while looking behind will put you off course within just a few steps. The smart traveler cares more for where they are headed than where they have already been. I have never heard of anyone driving a long journey in reverse, but too many people live that way then act surprised when tomorrow they are not much further along than yesterday.
Once one second ticks into the next it is a forever over moment. The outcome of a gone by day cannot be altered by keeping it within sight, but dwelling on yesterday can sure screw up today. Seems much more civilized to carry as little baggage as possible into the future, packing with deliberation insures that what we burden ourselves with is light weight. Dwelling upon events that cannot be changed binds them to you in a way that anchors you to the point of their origin. Why root yourself to a place and time that most often has such a bleak landscape?
The more you hold onto things the harder it is to let go. A minor irritation can become a huge seeping wound in no time at all. Distaste can mutate into hate if held inside long enough to sour. And ego is the most foolish navigator for getting anywhere worth going to.
Let the past lay in an unmarked grave to remind yourself that revisiting is a waste of precious time. It seems much better to just deal with the present moment as it occurs then let it drift on the winds of change as you go forward into the next moment in time. Managing your moments is really the best defense against having a reason to look with regret upon their passing.
I received the text that follows in an email and loved its gentle reminder. Read it slowly, absorb it fully, and live it wisely.
**One Flaw In Women **
Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
THINK ABOUT IT
LET IT GROW