Saturday, March 18, 2006

The Strength Of Forgiveness

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
Mohandas Gandhi

The urge for validation often gets in the way of forgiveness. Things better left alone are picked to pieces for the sake of being right. People who should know better fuss and fight over things not worth the effort then one or both hold grudges like a winning lottery ticket and show it to anyone who looks their way. Dwelling on it becomes the moving force in their lives, and it eats like cancer all healthy tissue in its path.
The hated is not the one who suffers the most, often they care not at all. Sometimes they even get joy out of how ate up the other person is, and what kind of sense does it make to bring joy to someone because of the depth of your own pain. If it does no good and only brings you ill then what is the point, for heavens sake.
One of the most difficult exercises in forgiveness is pardoning yourself. All the times of failure in life can be overwhelming if not given an avenue of escape. I failed many people for years, but it was failing myself that made those misteps possible. I still make blunders in judgment more often than I like to admit, but not as often as long ago. Hell, I do not even make as many as I did last month or last week, each day is contemplated in a different light. And that light comes from a place of unconditional love for everyone, but begins with unconditional love for myself that is a natural added bonus of forgiveness.