Thursday, July 14, 2005


The truth is rarely pure and never simple.
Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest, 1895, Act I Irish dramatist, novelist, & poet (1854 - 1900)

The telling of truths should always be done with a healthy balance between fact and mercy. Even the hardest truths lose most of their ache when gently expressed. Some hard truths are nobody's fault, yet can wound both the speaker and the listener. And nothing is ever quite as simple as it seems, black or white, right or wrong; the truth is a very complicated taskmaster.
The most difficult things to master are the hard truths you tell yourself, because once heard they are never quite forgotten. It often takes time to admit their validity, so they naturally continue to pester the brain periodically. And the longer you fight against admitting something, the longer you prolong the agony, yet we all wobble along doing just that much too often. Human nature is such a predictable condition to suffer from, but it can be trained to manageable levels with lots of practice.
The truth is not an enemy. It is not meant to be a weapon, using it in that fashion causes unnecessary internal damage that can last a lifetime. Truth is meant to foster greater understanding of self and of others. Not pure, never simple, yet always liberating when handled with care.