Sunday, April 09, 2006

The Power Of Touch

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Leo Buscaglia

Touch is intensely powerful; our energy touches others for ill or good, altering the vibrations of those around us. All of us are fed or starved by good touch or bad, and what we pass to others is often simply the echoes of what was just given to us. We should consider the importance of choosing for ourselves, instead of simply paying it forward whatever its content.
Lifting someone up above where you are then pulling yourself up to their level makes more sense than dragging them down to share a common misery. Any smile shared makes the joy all the richer and can be given by a tone of voice or words on paper. I hand out extras to people who do not seem to have one handy, finding that a lot better than stealing one that will not fit my face anyway. Without intention, I might not ease a frown or I may even cause one, but I attempt to make as many conscious decisions about my mood as necessary to keep it in some sort of balance.
We cannot control how other people use their power of touch, but we can determine how we allow it to affect us. We can have control of how we touch and what we leave behind or leave it to chance and willingly give as good as we get even if the ones we are giving it to do not deserve its burden. Sharing of emotions should be selective, not just hosed upon everyone; few will thank you for covering them in shit and some will even get truly hostile.
Touch gently the ones you touch and forgive the ones who do not return the favor. Do not change your nature to mirror the unnatural, even for a moment. Think about the echoes you want to leave behind and in that way make your personal space more peaceful. Success is not always certain, but it is always possible. Once you begin thinking about touch in a deeper way, it gets used as a tool more often than a weapon and its true potential is more fully realized.